Are you in
an abusive relationship?
Abuse is no excuse. If you are in an abusive relationship, or know someone else who is being abused, please read this and get help today.
Abuse is NOT God’s Will for you! Please note that abuse is not only physical –
it is emotional, intellectual, verbal, financial and spiritual.
Signs of a
potentially abusive relationship are evident when someone:
1. Keeps track of what you are doing all
the time, and with whom.
2. Is jealous and
possessive.
3. Accuses you of being
unfaithful.
4. Brings up past
relationships, as though you shouldn’t have had any.
5. Shows controlling
behaviour. Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family, going to
work or college.
6. Gets angry when
drinking alcohol or using drugs.
7. Is verbally
abusive.
8. Controls all the
money, including the money you spend.
9. Checks your bank
statements or bank accounts.
10. Humiliates
you in front of others.
11. Treats you
differently when others are around.
12. Destroys your
property.
13. Threatens to
harm you in any way; threatens your children or pets.
14. Uses or
threatens to use a weapon against you.
15. Sexually
abuses you.
16. Blames you
for their violent outbursts.
Help
centres – Christian places:
Mercy Haven for Abused Women with Children
011 892 2714
Christian Praise Centre Families with Children
011 744 4350
Beit Shalom Christian House for Abused Women
078 463 2857, 011
892 1079
L’a Bris di Dieu Safehouse Stellenbosch
021 808 8005, gro.hcsobnellets@senninroc
Other
useful information:
Stop Woman Abuse
National Hotline 0800 150
150
South African Police
Service 10111
Women’s Legal Centre
011 892 2714
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