There’s a fourth cause for a loss of passion in our lives.
4. An unresolved conflict
Conflict just drains the passion right out of you. Do you ever start a day and it’s going to be a great day — you know it. You just fly out of bed. You’re awake from the moment you get up. You’re ready for the day — shower, breakfast — you’re ready. You’re on the way out the door and you have a fight with your husband or your wife. All the zip goes out of your doo-dah. It’s like the air going out of a tire when the conflict comes. That’s what conflict does to us. It takes all the passion out of our lives. Your attitude all of a sudden just goes flat.
Let’s be honest about this. Some of you, you’re in situations at home or at work where the conflict is constant. Maybe you’re even doing all that you can to minimize the conflict. But it’s coming from the other person. How do you keep your passion in a situation like that?
You decide to protect yourself from the three passion killing emotions that can come into our lives in conflict. You cannot control the other person always. But you can control the kind of emotions you have in the midst of the conflict. The three emotions that kill our passion in the midst of conflict are resentment, jealously and prolonged anger.
These next verses talk about them. Job 5:2 “Resentment destroys the fool and jealousy kills the simple.” Circle “resentment” and circle “jealousy.” Passion killing emotions.
Job 18:4 “You are only hurting yourself with your anger.” Circle “anger.” It only hurts you.
You make the decision when it comes to resentment and jealousy and prolonged anger to let it go. This is why forgiveness is so important. God who knows us, who made us, who created us knows that we can’t carry resentment. So He says here’s a way to let it go. Even logically we know that the resentment that we have in our lives it’s not hurting the person we’re resentful against. They don’t even know you’re resentful. It’s hurting us. The anger is hurting us.
If you want the passion to be restored in your heart, in your life, you have to forgive. You have to let it go.
I know what some of you are thinking. “Let them off the hook? How can I do that?” I’m not telling you to let them off the hook. I’m telling you to put them on God’s hook. Let them off your hook. Just put them in God’s hands. Just say, “God, I can’t handle this. You can. I forgive them and I leave it to You.” If you don’t then that unforgiveness is going to kill the passion in your life the rest of your life. If you do not then the resentment that you have for that person that resentment is controlling your passion and by that it’s controlling your life. And you do not want them to control your life. So you forgive and you let it go. That’s how you resolve the conflict in your heart.
